When thinking about a new view on sex, I feel like most people are only thinking about physical aspects of relationships and sexual intercourse. However, there is so much more involved than that. It is important to not only look at our actions, but also at our thoughts and words. There are other actions involved as well, such as the way we dress, the way we carry ourselves, and how we use our body language. When we talk about someone are we showing our appreciation for their value or are we using degrading terms. Do we speak of sex as a gift or as a joke? Indeed our words and actions are important, but I think it all stems from our thoughts.
Training our thoughts for sexual purity takes time and effort. It is natural to make assumptions and/or judgments when we first see someone. When we see someone with a smile, we may assume that they are friendly. If we see someone that is homeless, we may make other assumptions. However, if we practice making positive assumptions that show respect and appreciation for individuals, we are taking a step in the right direction. The opposite of these positive assumptions, would be negative assumptions that disrespect a person’s dignity or imply that we are lusting after them or using them for our own pleasure.
Our first task is distinguishing between the pure and impure thoughts. Next, we should practice having pure thoughts. When we see someone attractive instead of thinking, that person is hot I wanna get with them, we should look at them as a person and appreciate their true value. When impure thoughts occur, we can pray for them to go away and be replaced with pure thoughts. Changing our thoughts will have an impact on our words and actions.