Question Box – Being Yourself

Why is it so hard to be comfortable with and act like myself with the guy I like?

This is a really interesting question because you want to be yourself all the time, especially in a relationship. When you are spending time with a person that you have a crush on there are a lot of emotions involved. You probably want things to work out between the two of you and so that is adding pressure to the relationship. You might be nervous and worried about him not liking you, so you’re trying to be someone you’re not.

I would suggest talking to the guy about this and asking him to help you. It is pretty easy to tell when someone is being genuine or fake. Ask him to help you be yourself, by pointing out the times that you are putting on an act. Take some time to reflect on why you are struggling to be yourself. This may be something that you need to sort out and work through personally before getting involved in a relationship. It will also help you in order to evaluate where you are personally and what you are looking for in the relationship.

“If you are what you should be, you will set the whole world on fire.” – St. Catherine of Sienna

In new situations it can be difficult to feel comfortable and be yourself, but you have been created to be you and no one else. When reflecting on who you are, it is easier to commit to being yourself. Find out who you are, look at who God is calling you to be, commit to being yourself, and strive to be the best version of yourself in each and every situation you are involved in throughout your life.