If you were to walk up to a random person and ask them what the opposite of love is, the answer would most likely be hate...However, John Paul II has a different answer. He says that the opposite of loving someone isn't hating them - it's using them. We're human, and we have a choice: are we going to love someone for who they are as a person, or are we going to use them (physically, emotionally etc.) for ourselves? Do we see people as a means for our own end? What do you consider to be "using someone"?
For Girls
Have you done sexual acts or compromised your dignity to make a guy more interested in you?
Do you sometimes dress immodestly to get attention?
Do you feel you need a “cute boyfriend” to validate your worth?
Do you or would you cheat?
Do you settle for being “friends with benefits”?
Do you fall back into the same sexual mistakes, relationship after relationship?
Do you justify sexual acts because you feel you’re “in love”?
Do you tolerate your boyfriend looking at pornography?
Do you stay in unhealthy relationships for fear of being alone?
Do you dance in a way that invites guys to lust after you?
For Guys
When you see an attractive girl, do you automatically imagine doing sexual acts with her?
When it comes to your speech, are you respectful around girls you want to impress, but you sound like Quagmire when you’re with the guys?
Do you or would you cheat?
Do you get mad at a girl if she doesn’t want to be physical in any way?
Do you gently push your girlfriend to go further than she wants during times when the two of you are physically intimate?
Do you look at pornography?
Do you tell your girlfriend that you love her, hoping that she’ll want to be sexually active with you?
